New placement 2-22

Yes, I got a call for a baby girl. She is 3 months old. I don't know much and she has not been given a worker as of yet. I am hoping early Monday she will. She was receently in the hospital and I would like to know where and why. I have not had any luck finding that this weekend. The weekend overnight worker did not know anything. She is a good baby she slept all night last night. She doesn't like to eat though. She eats a little at a time. Trying to get her to eat more has proved to be challenging.

He's gone

Wow. It was only a short period. I busted my but and got him things he needed and everything in order.
I got a doctor's appointment even though he just had a physial with his primary care who happend to be the one that I was going to use for my kids.
I got his shot record which was up to date.
I also got a copy of the previous physical.
I got a copy of his birth certificate.
I switched his school information to my name.
I got him in daycare.
I put in the request to change his transportation pickup point.
I got him a couple of outfits and undergarments.
I called the worker to tell her to put in the daycare.

She told me that she was on her way to get him as she is going to move him to his grandma. I am happy that she was able to move him to family but she could have given me some warning.

Placement.

I got my first placement. I wanted girls and preferred African American. I got neither. I got a 4 year old boy. He is the sweetest thing. He was quiet and calm then when the worker left he went crazy. I got him to calm down by asking if he wanted McDonald's. Not very healthy but it worked. I had to pick up some stuff for him. He fell asleep on the couch and when I went to move him to the bed woke up and started crying "I will be good I will be good, I promise. I want to go home." Very sad. I had to lay with him to go to sleep but he has been down for a bit and no sound from the room. Tomorrow I will spend my day running to get everything set for him to stay at the program he is at as the worker thinks this would be safe for him and getting info from the doctor. She is the primary care I was going to use anyways so this will be nice. I need to get a daycare and wait for the emergency evaluation that should come tomorrow. Wow. Excited and don't want to go crazy with the clothes as may go to family if there is any. He had an accident at the office and they gave him a 2t outfit to wear. with a 7-8 shirt. This was weird. He is small but still fits a 4t. Well thought I would share as was so impatient waiting for the call.

My mentee

Ok. Well my mentee, we will call her "T" wants to live with me. This is something that I would be open to exploring. Others may not. We are only like 10 years and 9 months different in age. This should not be a problem as my adoptive parents were only the same age differene. Yes I know teens are not easy and especially foster teens. I wish the caseworker would call me as I would like to know some specifics about previous placements and why she was moved. She won't my worker is not really open to the idea at this time. I am licensed for 0-18 and this should not have happend if they did not want me to take in a teen. They are also the ones that had initially suggested this with the hours that I had at work to get an older teen. I would not be open to a call for a teen right now but if I get to spend time with them and get to know them over a period of time then I would. Well she wants to be with me all the time. She wants me to come to games, and then just hang out with her. I hate watching sports. This is a bore to me. I endured watching boys basketball which she helped keep score with for a little over a month. She loves to be involved. I am all for it. I would go to watch her play but that would not be something I would love to endure if she is not playing. She copied her last report card and gave it to me. She has also gone to her attorney to ask him to help her get placed. I don't see what the major issue is as you can adopt a child as long as you are more than 10 years older than them. Well. I don't know but she spend the entire day with me. She went to church with me. She actually enjoyed it. She had fun with the little kids and was wanting to help with the babies. She is totally great with young children.

Last night I went back to church after taking her home and everyone was kept asking where my daughter was or was that your foster daughter. I had to tell them no, as this is the truth and that I would love that to be the case but the workers are worried about age. Many of them said that they would not see that as an issue and I have a huge support group of people at my church. Another foster parent spoke to her in the morning saying that we were friends and that she would not want her to do anything to hurt me and that I would be there for her and would not hinder her from doing things as I am not that type of person. She told her that I would do good for her and help her to succeed in life. She wanted her to be patient and see what God has in store.

I love my church family. They actually are the only ones that stood by me. My adoptive parents flaked out when I started talking to my birth mom and my birth mom flaked out cause I moved out to live my life. I could not continue to live with someone that wanted to die, was sick and wanted me to tell the doctors to let her die if they had her on life support. I gave her the papers to have filled out and registered but advised that I could not and would not tell them to take her off life support. I would not be able to handle it. She never filled them out. Well, I love them both but right now they are not the ones that should be in my life as they want to pull me down. I forgive them for all that I went through because of them and pray that they are right with God. There are just times you have to move on.

Well.....

It has been a week since my worker came to my home. This is something that I had to have prior to a placement. Still I have not gotten any calls. I am so anxious. I know today is a day when they have a placement meeting where workers are looking for homes for kids that are in care or may come into care. I hope that I get a call today. I am so anxious.

Don't get me wrong I am sad for these kids that they have to endure the trama of abuse and neglect in order for them to come to me. I am happy to be available for them so that they can have a safe loving home environment rather than a shelter or group home living. I just pray that today is the day that at least one child comes into my home. I would love to go shopping and the things that expecting moms do. I just cannot as I have no clue what age or sex of child I will be recieving and cannot shop for the unknown. I think and know this would make the waiting a bit easier. I don't want to go shop for more toys than I have either as don't know the childs interests either. Well. We will see.

I guess I should do some laundry and eat something and just wait patiently. It is so hard not to call my worker as she sounds irritated to hear from me. I know she will call when there is a placement but there is the anxiety of the wait. I am not going to call her if at all possible this week. I know once I get a child I won't bother her until I have an issue with the worker of the child following through on things. I will have to see what happens.

God knows the desires of my heart. He also knows the plan that he has for my life and the children that would be the best with me.

Patience, I don't recall praying for them. I certainly didn't ask for them. Yet I am being taught to have patience and it is driving me insane.

Lord, prepare me for the child or children that you have for me.

Waiting

Just when I thought my waiting was over. Now the wait for a placement. GRRRRRR>

Official

I got my actual license in the mail yesterday. Thank you Jesus. I am in waiting to see when the call will come.

OMG

Finally. I am offiially a licensed foster parent. Yeah! Next week I have a training at work and will have a new schedule as of the following week that meets my ageny standards. Yeah YEAH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Off to dance for joy.

Don't these two look similiar?

Don't these two look similiar?

My little man

Beauty

OMG

I am a day or so away from my official liscense. I cannot wait!

The next thing that I need to happen is that I need to have my friends kids be able to stay at daycare until 4 so that I can change my hours. I need to be able to change hours to get a placement.

A Call

I got a call this morning. I was totally caught off guard. T called her attorney and tol him to fight to move her here. She asked for him to have an emergency hearing so she could be moved.

DUH---Denied....

I am still waiting on Phoenix to process my amendment and that is not possible. I want to spend more time with her. She has totally lost it. That is not happening. I let my worker know and will be laying low. I have not been able to speak to her worker and I am not positive this is a good option.

Time.

Call me for a younger child and I am game but for this age, not yet. Time it takes time.

A beautiful picture

I want one similiar to this. I want it of a white woman holding a African American baby girl.

A day

Well, T and I spent a few hours together the other day. She is so not emotionally 16years old. I blame this on the system. She is adament that she is not going to try any other foster home as she wants to live with me and does not want to change schools. I don't understand why they would move her from a school she is in the middle of her Junior year at and been there since she was a freshman. They know this. They also know that she is going to blow a placement that wont leave her at that school. Why break something that she is doing well with. She is involved and is getting good grades. I still want to spend time with her and she is so clingy. I care about her and believe if the caseworker would call me and talk to me and we could make arrangements to allow overnights and such that this could be the best place for her. I know I am crazy. She only has a year and a half left of school and she will be on to college. She wants a family to call her own. I want to so talk to her about different things but don't want to give her the false hope of moving here. She said she is going to talk to her attorney and also to her judge. I keep telling her to be patient that she needs to be open to other things but she wants it now. GRRRR. They system failing yet another child.
I even tried to convince her that the people she is meeting could be good people and she should share with them her desire to stay at her school to see if this is an option. She is not having it.